Don’t cut your hair when you’re under 30 unless you’re absolutely certain you want it short. Don’t take everyone seriously but be respectful of everyone’s humanity none-the-less. If you have a real choice always choose the best. You’ll never regret reading the books you’ve read so read as many as you can while you have optimum youth and time. …Those are just a few of the pieces of advice I’d give to people younger than myself or my actual younger self.
I regret almost every haircut I had before age 25. For whatever reason I always wanted to cut my hair. I think I thought it complemented my face. But now, as I get older and have postpartum hair for the second time, I’m mourning my then very youthful lack of understanding.
…There are many people I was friends with when I was younger who I don’t know if I’d be able to become friends with as easily now. For my part of the Millennials, at least, our younger days were more optimistic and open-minded. Just think: Obama and “The Office” and “Garden State” were our 20’s. It wasn’t awesome but we really had some naïve sense that things were maybe better than they were. And we followed suit with our relationships. But, looking back, I’m less rose-tinted.
There are many young men I’d be nice to (obviously) but certainly not be as smitten by. I don’t think they were nearly as clever as they seemed to me (or others) at the time. Poor guys… I wonder if they ever realized how much they hurt people here and there with their immaturity and lack of a necessary sensitivity. AND there were a few female friends I wish I’d been less…trusting of but also maybe kinder to. They just needed a happy person to listen in our friendship and not someone who was hoping to be really close. Some people truly aren’t in a place to accept close relationships, sadly, or some people just can’t be that close to some people.
And then there are the things. Yes material items. *smile*
Yes! I know… People are more valuable and love is what matters. And I’m not a materialistic person. Truly. But…it’s nice to be able to enjoy sensual experiences and facing aging (a little) has taught me to not only value the deeper things but to truly value more transient matters too. I always liked beauty and nice things, but now I recognize that the vividness of (any) youth shouldn’t be underestimated when it comes to being able to appreciate goodness. And, it’s wonderful for both us and the environment not to waste. So, always choose what’s genuinely best. If you have $200 this month to spend, you’ll have another $300 next month and another $300 the next and you want a cashmere sweater for the coming colder months but it’s only late August: Wait. Wait and buy the one for $800.00 that’s more ethically made and much nicer too (and take care of it). Wear what you have until then to keep warm. You’ll be glad you did.
AND *sigh* read!! Read! Read! Read!!!! There is literally not a single book I regret reading. At the time it might have felt like a waste, but we use that knowledge more than we think we will. It gives us perspective and sometimes even health. Read!