When I see anger from people who are in the fragrance community I’m always amazed by it. Sure I expect it now to some degree. I first noticed it in 2016 and it came to a boiling point in 2018. I deleted the account I was experiencing the most bullying with (and restarted this blog as well) but…at times it still perplexes me.
Why does it perplex me so much? Because collecting perfume isn’t a cheap hobby. It’s not like buying paintings worth hundreds of thousands (of Dollars) but it’s certainly going to cost you thousands (single digit) yearly if you take it really seriously. Why wouldn’t you expect someone to have more than most people do even in comparison to those who are already really blessed (on a world scale at least) in that sort of community?
Back in 2016 I was in denial for a while because I couldn’t believe it. When I first started posting photos to Instagram and communicating with hundreds of other perfume collectors there I assumed that a lot of them were very wealthy or at least wealthy. How could anymore afford to spend tens of thousands on perfume every year otherwise? *sigh* The rest I assumed were at least comfortable, so to speak. It took me years to realize that many people put a lot of their disposable income or more into their perfume hobby. Now, I’m not judging doing that but it’s just not what I had initially thought.
Actually, I’m really not judging. I understand having passion… I just don’t know why there aren’t more people who see what I see in the online fragrance community. (yes that’s how it refers to itself – #fragfamily #fragcomm etc.) And there’s a huge difference between caring about fragrance as art (or even having an addiction for some) versus obsessively competing… It’s ridiculous and sick to spend $10,000 a year on perfume if you can’t afford it to begin with to seem “better” than someone else who also can’t afford the $1000 they spend. Right? Right.
Anyway, I’m starting to truly just be “over it” in a way. So if you’re still reading this from my old account…and we’re not in contact anymore…ok. *shrug*
…No, I’m going to buy En Passant (or Gentle Fluidity?), two vintage Guerlains and I’ll likely be done collecting for a while unless I find a gem. Not just for the year. Only the rare purchase. It’s too depressing to really try to keep up (meaning be aware of what’s new to debut/is being noticed and interact with people as much as I’d like to) because it’s an endless, disturbing competition (at least now) and not about real appreciation.